Future faking is a term found in the narcissistic abuse community, and this term means exactly what it sounds like. Future faking is the act of promising something in the future, but without any real intent or sincere effort towards keeping that promise.
Future faking can take many forms, but it always presents a future promise that caters the needs and desires of the person being manipulated. The person doing the manipulating benefits from this lie, and this lie can be used to serve many purposes.
Future faking is used to get another person to make a huge life change that benefits the needs or desires of the person making the promise.
A controlling parent might tell an adult child that they will provide some grand thing for the adult child if they will just come back home to the parent. The parent has no real intention of doing what they claimed they will do; they just want to regain control over their child. When the time comes to do as they said, they will find a reason not to—and the reason will almost always be the fault of their child.
A woman might promise a man children if he will marry her, but she has no real intentions of being a mother. She just wants the man bound to her in marriage as a means to control this person and to keep him from leaving her. Once they are married, the wife will find excuses for not having children, then blame the husband for being so selfish as to expect her to sacrifice herself for children.
Future faking is used to make the person being manipulated more kindly disposed towards the person making the false promise.
For example, someone might promise to do some kind thing for you. Maybe this person detected a need that you have, and they promised to help in the future, even though you never asked for help. The help they promised never comes. This can happen with well-meaning people, but some people have a habit of making such promises then backing out of them, and it would seem as though they make these promises just so they can look good at the time.
Future faking is used in the form of false repentance or change of heart so that the person who was treated poorly will continue in the toxic relationship.
For example, someone might treat another person badly, then when the abused person threatens to leave or does leave, the abuser will feign repentance and remorse, promise to do better, and coax the person into staying. Some changes might be made for a time, but the abusive person slowly or abruptly retreats into their old ways.
We can all do this when we struggle with a behavior. However, those who are future faking will later refuse accountability for those same actions once the person they abused is feeling safe and their guard is down. They will blame shift, deny that there is a problem, or otherwise gaslight the person who they were supposedly repentant towards.
Future faking is cruel because it plays off of the needs and desires of another in order to fulfill the purposes of the person who is doing the manipulating, and they never pay up. They crush the people they are dealing with and they blame others when that promise is never fulfilled, or they deny ever having made the promise. This causes anxiety and mistrust within those who are being manipulated as well as dependency on others.
As with all narcissistic abuse, this can happen in any circumstance that involves human relationships such as romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships, at the workplace, and within the realms of religion and politics.
Future Faking from a Christian Perspective
As a Christian, there are future promises that I count on, but unlike those who fake the future, I know Jesus is true. We know that Jesus will return and establish His kingdom, and we know that we will inherit eternal life with Him in this Kingdom.
Although this is a future promise, Jesus provides us with evidence of this salvation, even now. He provides us with His Holy Spirit, which is the “earnest of our inheritance.” Through the Holy Spirit, we experience the Kingdom that “comes not with observation” as the ways of God are written into our hearts, changing our natures overtime and freeing us from the kingdoms of this world.
There are many people who mock the promises of Jesus. They might accuse Him of future faking or accuse us of being foolish for believing in Him, but we can stand firm in the faith because our faith is accompanied with divine persuasion.
The faith of a Christian is not blind faith, and it is not believing without seeing—though it is in a sense. Although we do not yet see all things fulfilled as promised, we are given a kind of spiritual sight that convinces us of our faith in Jesus, and we experience a relationship with Him that is anything but blind.
He speaks with us, leads us, comforts us, and works mightily within us. Though the things of the spirits of God are foolishness to this world, we will not be moved because our King is still on the throne, and we can trust in Him.
Never let someone tell you that your king in heaven is dead. He will return at the appointed time, and everyone will bow before Him.
Never let the kingdoms of this world future fake with you—promising a manmade eutopia and freedom from the pains of this life—so long as you bow down and worship their system, denying the One true God in the process.
As a Christian, I know that suffering in this life is expected, and not only is it expected, it is necessary for my growth into a son of God. Jesus suffered the cross, and He makes all suffering bearable—even though it might seem unbearable. Lord willing, and if the grace of God will abound towards us, we will endure suffering for His sake rather than fall for the future fakes of another kingdom that promises peace and safety only to steal, kill, and destroy.
As a Christian, I do not want to future fake Jesus by claiming Him as my Lord yet living my own life as I please without regard for Jesus and His ways.
We cannot future fake the Son of God and expect to gain the promises He made to us. God is merciful, but He will not be mocked, and God the Father will not allow those who claim the blood of the Son to do so without real dedication to Him.
Jesus will work sincerity in all who belong to Him, even if it means tearing down all else that we trust in—including all of the future fakes of this world.
Sin is the greatest future fake.
It seems pleasurable at the time, but it only leads to death. Jesus died to provide us with freedom from sin, so let us continue seeking Him so that we have assurance from the One who is always true to His word as we cast off the lying ways of this world and the prince thereof.
I am not a mental health professional. These “recovery” articles are written with knowledge that is based on life experience and research.
Life can teach us a lot about trauma, but Jesus provides the best remedies. If you have a story you’d like to share, if you want to learn more about the gospel of the kingdom of Jesus Christ, or if you just want someone to talk to, reach out in the comments, through private message, or email.
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I have a question for you Christian and or profess Christians. The question is how you would answer some one if they told you to (prove the God of the Bible isn’t just an impostor spirit. That he isn’t just a very powerful spirit from the near east posing as our creator and almighty God so he can feed from the worship of the rest of the world. And though the Bible is inspired. It’s the product of an impostor spirit).
How would you refute such an augment. Could you refute it. Or would you just get frustrated and tell them to have a nice day, then walk away?
The average Christian might prove the existence of God. Maybe establishing that he is very powerful and able to intervene to some extent. That apparently, he has some relationship to the scriptures. But could they decisively prove he’s the creator? Could they prove he is Almighty in power?
The Bible does speak about a future time when he will prove his complete might to humanity. But that is yet to happen. And who has ever died, gone to heaven and verified it. Explaining exactly where they had gone and who or what is responsible for them being there?
There is such a thing as being given just enough crumbs in the meantime that it keeps you in expectation of greater things that may or may not happen in the long run.
The argument is the whole thing could be a type of “future faking”. He keeps his worshiper in expectation of a glorious future while they are in this system or realm, capitalizing on their energy right now. And when they past away it’s too late. But he feeds on the energy of his followers in the meantime.
The logic isn’t that mankind doesn’t have a true creator. The claim is that he the real one is often indifferent and somewhat double natured. For instance, while there is great precision and order in the universe there is also natural chaos. Planets with violent storms, asteroids and meteorites that might crash into anything, dangerous Black holes that might absorb any and everything within their rang. It even seems possible for galaxies to collide. And from what is known about stars, they burn out eventually. Our Sun is considered a star right.
If the universe is naturally orderly and naturally chaotic, doesn’t that say something about the nature of the one who created it? Is he exclusively righteous?
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I would not say, “have a nice day” and walk away, because the God I serve would want me to take the time to love you enough to respond. I will do my best to answer your questions. I’m going to reply to one section at a time, to make sure I do not miss anything.
Question: “I have a question for you Christian and or profess Christians. The question is how you would answer some one if they told you to (prove the God of the Bible isn’t just an impostor spirit. That he isn’t just a very powerful spirit from the near east posing as our creator and almighty God so he can feed from the worship of the rest of the world. And though the Bible is inspired. It’s the product of an impostor spirit).
How would you refute such an augment. Could you refute it. Or would you just get frustrated and tell them to have a nice day, then walk away?”
Answer: I’m not sure what you mean by “very powerful spirit from the near east.” In any case, your description of God as someone who “feeds from the worship of the rest of the world” would tell me that the god you describe is not the true god in any case. God does not feed off our worship. Rather, it is good for us to worship God. It is not that He needs it. It is good for us because if we do not worship God, then we will worship something else, and that something else will only destroy us because to worship means to obey. If we obey the true God, then we are liberated from worship of things that destroy us.
I do not believe that the bible comes from an impostor spirit. Those who wrote the books of the bible were inspired by the Holy Spirit, which is also called the Spirit of Truth. Jesus also calls Himself the Word of God. He gives His spirit to us, and the two testify together of the truth of the bible and the truth of Jesus Christ, and the Spirit also demonstrates the goodness of God in helping us to overcome destructive things in our nature, so we can say emphatically that God is true and good, and so is His word.
Question: “The average Christian might prove the existence of God. Maybe establishing that he is very powerful and able to intervene to some extent. That apparently, he has some relationship to the scriptures. But could they decisively prove he’s the creator? Could they prove he is Almighty in power?”
Answer: It is difficult to prove the existence of God. It is best for God to prove His existence to you personally. Seek Him, and He might reveal Himself to you. He does this in a variety of ways. He knows the individual best, because He is the Creator. Sometimes He does so through the scriptures. Sometimes He reveals Himself during times of suffering, when He is called upon. He can also send the Holy Spirit in a demonstrative way, and the Holy Spirit Himself reveals Jesus to you. His Almighty power is shown in the miraculous ability to know God, to have a change of heart, and in other gifts of the Spirit as He decides to provide for the person. Faith is a gift, and only God can give that. So the best thing is to ask for it, and maybe He will answer.
Question: “The Bible does speak about a future time when he will prove his complete might to humanity. But that is yet to happen. And who has ever died, gone to heaven and verified it. Explaining exactly where they had gone and who or what is responsible for them being there?”
Answer: The Bible promises that Jesus will rule, and all will worship Him. As Christians, we patiently wait His return. The Bible also promises a false christ who comes first, but Jesus overthrows Him and raises His servants from the dead at His coming. The Bible also teaches that none have ascended into heaven but Jesus. However, the Bible also teaches that heaven, also called the Kingdom of Heaven, will come to the heart of the person who receives Jesus by the Holy Spirit. That is a sort of metaphor that is verifiable because this is a Kingdom of liberty from the kingdom of this present world that is ruled by our Adversary, who kills, steals, and destroys all things that are good. We experience heaven in heart first, and we know that God is true.
Question: “There is such a thing as being given just enough crumbs in the meantime that it keeps you in expectation of greater things that may or may not happen in the long run.
The argument is the whole thing could be a type of “future faking”. He keeps his worshiper in expectation of a glorious future while they are in this system or realm, capitalizing on their energy right now. And when they past away it’s too late. But he feeds on the energy of his followers in the meantime.”
Answer: Again, there is a fundamental misconception about God. This is common, so don’t be hard on yourself or be embarrassed. I say this with a loving tone that is hard to communicate in writing. He does not feed off of our energy. We feed off of His, and His energy, or His Holy Spirit, provides much more than breadcrumbs. In-fact, Jesus calls Himself the Bread of Life, and whoever eats this bread will live forever. He feeds us truths that heal us from complicated struggles and sicknesses of the mind. It is quite the gift, and He does so much more for us. In return, He allows us to serve Him. This is a willing service that we are glad to take up, bringing truth and goodness to a dying world. Far from a future fake. We experience the Kingdom now, and we know full well that we will live forever in the Kingdom to come.
Question: “The logic isn’t that mankind doesn’t have a true creator. The claim is that he the real one is often indifferent and somewhat double natured. For instance, while there is great precision and order in the universe there is also natural chaos. Planets with violent storms, asteroids and meteorites that might crash into anything, dangerous Black holes that might absorb any and everything within their rang. It even seems possible for galaxies to collide. And from what is known about stars, they burn out eventually. Our Sun is considered a star right.”
Answer: God says that He creates all things, good and evil, for His good purposes. This does include natural chaos, but even the chaos as we would call it is under His control and serving a purpose. We don’t always know that purpose. He is above us in understanding, considering all He made, and we are far removed from our capacity to understand His workings in all things. We do believe that by Him all things were made, and all things were made for Him, including the earth, where He has chosen to raise up many children who would believe in the Son Jesus, and live in a New Heavens and New Earth that will be different from what we currently experience. In this place, there is no more death, sorrow, or pain. The current chaos as you put it, is in some way part of His plan to teach us about Him and how He would want His children to become through Jesus. This universe as we know it now is temporary.
Question: “If the universe is naturally orderly and naturally chaotic, doesn’t that say something about the nature of the one who created it? Is he exclusively righteous?”
Answer: God kills and makes alive, He wounds and He heals. He can do as He pleases, being the Creator. However, all things are working out for the benefit of those who He is raising up to be His children. It would seem that having evil, or chaos, in the world makes us appreciate the good and strive to have the evil of our hearts healed. That is one good purpose that I know of, and it is more than righteous, it is what we call “gracious” because receiving adoption into His family is more than any of us deserve, but it was why He created all things in the first place. Jesus is the way to that adoption, the way out of destruction, and the way to life, even life that never ends in a Kingdom that comes in heart and will come to earth. A Kingdom that will one day usher in a New Heavens and New Earth, of which there is no more death, or anything that we would call unrighteous. It’s all part of His plan.
I hope this helps to answer your questions. Thank you for the comment.
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That’s a great answer Amanda. It was basically the one the scriptures would have you give. Based upon many things that are unforeseen at this time. Again, you may establish the god of the Bible is powerful. Many spirits are. You may establish he has some relationship to the scriptures.But what Christian can know for sure he isn’t just a very powerful spirit who started out in the near east. In that part of the world. Expanded from there while posing as our creator and only true god? And what Christian knows for sure who inspired the Bible? They can only establish that a powerful spiritual force apparently did. What Christian can say they have ever seen this god perform anything that would absolutely prove he is almighty in power? Any great miracles done in bible times, we were not there to experience them. With a billion or so people worshiping Yahweh in some form, that’s a lot of energy being directed in praise of him. Energy he can feed from in a sense. And he does direct some toward humans. Often in a positive way. But it doesn’t decisively prove he is almighty in power. It doesn’t decisively establish he isn’t just a powerful impostor spirit. While the true creator stands to the side in his indifference, due to his double nature of good and bad. Christians will say they have strong faith in the otherwise. Faith that is based on small or relatively small things. Things that might be called crumbs compared to an almighty form of liberation and intervention that they are yet to experience. That basically remains to be seen.
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Let’s assume that the God I worship is a false god. This would mean that he is a liar and imposter, posing as the Creator, as you put it, and not the Spirit of Truth as claimed. How then could He do all that He does, which is only made possible by the truth, as mentioned in my previous comment? Lies make no man free. The Truth makes free, and since I have experienced the power of the Almighty myself when I called on the name of His Son, Jesus, I know that He is true, and I know that the truth He gives makes me free from the deceptions that destroy me in mind and body.
Being the Creator, as He claims and as is true, He creates in me a new nature. Only the Creator can do this. We do in-fact experience miracles. We experience miraculous healing done by the Creator in the name of His Son. He cannot be true and also be a liar.
Moreover, It is no small thing to contact the Living God, nor is it a small thing to fall into His Hand when He judges the world. We all need to be forgiven of our sins, and this is true. God does not lie when He says that we have all sinned, and the punishment for sin is death. He did not lie when He sent His son to die for us and to promise us life from the dead, and the Holy Spirit of Truth that adopts us into the family of our Creator, a Spirit that comes in demonstration and power.
I cannot prove this to you, but my experiences testify to the truth of the Creator God and of His Son, on whose name I called and contacted God, whose Spirit of Truth makes alive and free and who testifies to the truth of the Scripture. Try to call on Him yourself, if you dare to. 🙂 Maybe He will have mercy on you and reveal Himself to you personally. This is the best “proof.” Once you contact Him, you know that He is true, because those who are of the truth hear His voice and recieve Him.
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Just correcting some spelling.
Amanda, people can be soothed, comforted, and strengthened by deception and half-truths. Certainly, a powerful imposter spirit can have that effect in a person’s life. A powerful spirit who’s lived maybe one hundred thousand years has plenty of wisdom to impart. But it doesn’t make him the creator. And powerful doesn’t make him almighty. Humans do sin and miss the mark. Sin is a type of chaos people certainly need to be liberated from. But the same god Christians suspect will liberate them from sin and all other forms of chaos, also created natural chaos in the universe, apparently due to his dual nature. Why do you just assume I’ve never zealously reached out to the god of the Bible? I have. I’m 53 years old. And Christianity has been a part of my life all of my life. Seems this god does not love everyone equally. Again, probably due to a dual nature, and or being an outright impostor spirit.
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I agree that people can be affected by half-truths. What I speak of, as far as knowing God experientially through the person of Jesus Christ, is not mere emotion or positive effects on one’s life. He can send the Holy Spirit in a powerful way that goes beyond this. Faith is a gift, and it can’t hurt to keep asking for it. That’s all that I mean. I don’t mean to presume. You’re right. I don’t know anything about you or your history. I don’t know in what manner Christianity has been a part of your life, but I do know that there is a false version of it that does a lot of harm to people. Jesus Himself said it would be so.
It is also true that God does not love everyone equally. The chaos is part of the plan for raising His children, and not all are His children in the same way that all are the created. He loves all in that He made all, but not all are given faith. It has to come from Him. I would that there was something that I could say to give you faith, and I do wonder why you wanted to have this conversation. Was it to look for reasons to believe, or was it to challenge by belief?
In any case, there are many misconceptions about God due to infiltrators of the Christian faith, so perhaps you have been fooled by an imposter spirit yourself, and one that robs you of the True God. There is an imposter. His name is Satan, as I’m sure you have heard. However, even Satan was created for a purpose, and God is in full control. If Satan has blinded you by impersonating as Christ, then that makes more sense to me, considering your ideas about God feeding off of our worship. That’s more true of Satan than of Jesus.
Again, I don’t mean to presume or insult whatever experiences with Christianity that you have had, I just say this to address the idea of an imposter. Jeff, one thing I can do is to pray for you, and if falsities within Christianity-so-called have harmed you, then I pray God show His true self to you. He is not a tyrant. He is not hungry for our worship. He is not some weak-willed savior who only wants us to believe in Him, but if we choose not to, then He will torture us forever in a place of never-ending flames. He is however in full control, over good and evil, and all things are working together for the good of those who He has chosen to call His sons.
You have lived nearly 20 years longer than I have, so I imagine you’ve experienced your fair share of chaos and pain in your life. Whatever you have gone through, I do pray that Jesus reveal Himself to you–the Jesus of truth and not the imposter–so that all things will come together for your good also.
I wanted to add something. On the chance that it is corruption of Christianity that is the problem for you, you might be interested in my ministry. These are the issues that I address. I’m not good at convincing people who do not believe. There are people who seem to do a good job at that. My goal is to expose corruptions within the Christian faith for the purpose of helping believers have stronger belief, and to help those who have been ostracized from Christianity by the false. If this is something that you are interested in, feel free to check this out and download the free PDF book. There are typos and some other minor errors. I need to fix those, but it is the best I have been able to do at this time. I don’t want to ostracize you, nor do I want to shove my beliefs on to you. Here is a link to the series if you are interested. I’m doing video discussions at the moment: https://thelordalone.com/category/these-things-saith-he/https://thelordalone.com/category/these-things-saith-he/.
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Amanda, people can be soothed, comforted, and strengthened by deception and half-truths. Certainly, a powerful imposter spirit can have that effect in a person’s life. A powerful spirit who’s lived maybe one hundred thousand years has plenty of wisdom to impart. But it doesn’t make him the creator. And powerful doesn’t make him almighty.
Humans do sin and miss the mark. Sin is a type of chaos people certainly need to be liberated from. But the same god Christians suspect will liberate them from sin and all other forms of chaos, also created natural chaos in the universe, apparently due to his dual nature.
Why do you just assume I’ve never zealously reached out to the god of the Bible? I have. I’m 53 years old. And Christianity has been a part of my life all of my life. Seems this god does not love everyone equally. Again, probably due to a dual nature, and or being an outright impostor spirit.
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Thank you Amanda. I will look over the links. I have reached out to the god of the Bible often very zealously mainly from a Jehovah’s Witness angle. I’m main reason for asking theses questions is to find sufficient answers and proof.
I know about the Holy Spirit. But what Christian can say for sure what the origin of it is? I’ve experienced its influence but something was always missing. Regardless of how much I actively prayed, preached, disciplined myself and persevered.
God is always at best like a man who stands at a distance. Often indifferent.
When we look at the universe we see order and chaos. Apparently that’s the nature one the one who created it. Satan could not be responsible for any natural chaos in the universe. That would be a product of God himself.
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God does say that He hides Himself in the thick darkness, but He also says that if we seek Him, we will find Him, and He rewards those who diligently seek. I’m not an expert in Jehovah Witness teaching, but I don’t believe that the truth is found in any particular Christian denomination in any case. I don’t subscribe to any one of them particularly. You have actively sought God, but maybe He was waiting for you to seek Him apart from man’s traditions. I agree that God created all things. Satan causes his form of chaos, but many things that we would call chaos are just God’s doing, even Satan himself can do nothing without God allowing it. God is good, however. Even the things that seem evil work out for good according to His purposes for us. I know that some Christians disagree with me on the idea of God creating evil and even Satan, and that there is no real cosmic battle between good and evil because God ordains it all, but many Christians disagree with me on several fronts because I do not fall in line with their denominations. I hope that you will find the information within the These Things Saith He online book and videos useful. Thank you for taking the time to talk with me. Reach out anytime (sorry for the resends. I had some typos).
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You can also email me anytime if you want to talk more about Christianity or your experiences. I love to hear from people. Maybe we can have more discussions that can help with your faith. It might take me a few days to get back, though. My email address is kindlingtruth@hushmail.com. Hope to hear back from you!
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Thanks Amanda. Spirituality can be a very mysterious thing. And much can not be know and outright established about any particular spirit or deity.
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I agree that the things of the Spirit are mysterious, and we cannot know anything as we aught to. This knowledge keeps us humble before God, and this is good. You said in a recent comment that you felt something was missing for you. I relate to that. I felt like that also, and I always feel like I need God to reveal more of Himself to me. However, receiving the Holy Spirit in demonstration and power is the best cure for ebbing faith. Jesus said that blasphemy of the Holy Spirit is unforgivable. He said this when He was accused of healing by the power of a false or devilish spirit. I don’t think this means that a person who has accused the Holy Spirit of being an imposter is beyond restoration. However, if this mindset continues, then how can you be healed? Jesus is “God with us.” Although God is far off, Jesus can be very near, and He is nearest by Holy Spirit given to us. Not only is He with us, but He lives within us. This is an amazing gift. I cannot convince you that the Holy Spirit is who He says He is–a part of God who is our Creator, who comes in the name of the Son Jesus who died for our sins, and who brings Jesus to our hearts in a real and tangible way.
All I can do is hope and pray that you do not give up. I believe all things happen for a reason, so perhaps this conversation is by divine intervention. I pray that you continue to seek Jesus, and to ask Him to send you His Spirit. I asked nearly every day for about 2 years before He came to me in a meaningful way.
I asked because I knew that I needed more. I knew that there was something more to the faith than I had learned through mainstream Christianity. I asked because I wanted to know the True God, to find healing from the sins that were destroying me, and so that I could share His truth with others. Please do not be disheartened or discouraged.
Our God is alive and so is His Son, and He promises to send the Holy Spirit. It is our Father’s good pleasure to give you the Kingdom, and this comes by the Spirit of God, the same spirit that will raise us from the dead at the coming of Jesus Christ. I pray the grace of God for you. Don’t give up. Sometimes things always look darkest before the dawn. The Holy Spirit is called the “day star” that rises in our hearts. May the light of Christ shine upon you and ease your mind with knowledge of the Lord that surpasses understanding.
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Thanks for the encouragement Amanda. There’s always reason to be somewhat skeptical.Especially when the universe has a dual nature of order and chaos. And no deity had ever proven personally to you to be almighty in power.
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