Virtues and Vices: A Guided Exercise for Christians

What are your core virtues? What are God’s virtues? What are the virtues of this age that the world tries to impose on you? Similarly, what are your vices that hinder you from keeping to the core virtues that you value and those that God values? This world has its own moral code–its religion ofContinue reading “Virtues and Vices: A Guided Exercise for Christians”

The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle from a Christian Perspective

Idealize. Devalue. Discard. Over and over. It is quite dizzying and crazy-making behavior, as anyone who has been through this will understand. First, they seem to adore you. They excitedly talk about the things you will experience together one day or grand plans they have to do some good for you in the future. Next,Continue reading “The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle from a Christian Perspective”

Going Grey Rock from a Christian Perspective

Going “grey rock” is a method of dealing with attention-seeking, manipulative, or otherwise narcissistic and abusive behaviors.  When a person grey rocks, the goal is to simply not respond—like a rock—to any attempts by an attacker at eliciting a negative emotional response from you. For example, if someone rages at you, instead of responding withContinue reading “Going Grey Rock from a Christian Perspective”

Future Faking from a Christian Perspective

Future faking is a term found in the narcissistic abuse community, and this term means exactly what it sounds like. Future faking is the act of promising something in the future, but without any real intent or sincere effort towards keeping that promise. Future faking can take many forms, but it always presents a futureContinue reading “Future Faking from a Christian Perspective”

Gaslighting from a Christian Perspective

What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic in which one person attempts to distort the reality of another. Gaslighting is often done to escape accountability for wrongdoing. For example, person A might have said or done something hurtful to Person B. If Person B were to bring the matter up to person A, personContinue reading “Gaslighting from a Christian Perspective”

Projection from a Christian Perspective

What is projection? Projection is when someone attributes their negative qualities or experiences onto another person. This can include personality or character traits, emotions, or actions. Victims of psychological abuse might endure projection from time to time, and this experience can be very confusing and damaging. The person experiencing projection might fall into a patternContinue reading “Projection from a Christian Perspective”