Virtues and Vices: A Guided Exercise for Christians

What are your core virtues? What are God’s virtues? What are the virtues of this age that the world tries to impose on you? Similarly, what are your vices that hinder you from keeping to the core virtues that you value and those that God values? This world has its own moral code–its religion ofContinue reading “Virtues and Vices: A Guided Exercise for Christians”

Watch “Combat Narcissism: How To Test For Narcissism And How To Fight Back” on YouTube

Tell them “no.” Good information. Especially the last bit about finding your core values and standing by them. They cannot be allowed to lead your life. It’s hell when they do. Consider this personally, socially, and politically.

The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle from a Christian Perspective

Idealize. Devalue. Discard. Over and over. It is quite dizzying and crazy-making behavior, as anyone who has been through this will understand. First, they seem to adore you. They excitedly talk about the things you will experience together one day or grand plans they have to do some good for you in the future. Next,Continue reading “The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle from a Christian Perspective”

Some Thoughts on Dealing with our Inner Accuser

Insecurity and pride seem to be two sides of the same coin, and I think a lot of insecurity stems from inner voices of criticism, or maybe more adequality put, inner voices of accusation. One of the greatest hindrances for me when it comes to writing about Christian topics as I see them has beenContinue reading “Some Thoughts on Dealing with our Inner Accuser”

Going Grey Rock from a Christian Perspective

Going “grey rock” is a method of dealing with attention-seeking, manipulative, or otherwise narcissistic and abusive behaviors.  When a person grey rocks, the goal is to simply not respond—like a rock—to any attempts by an attacker at eliciting a negative emotional response from you. For example, if someone rages at you, instead of responding withContinue reading “Going Grey Rock from a Christian Perspective”

Future Faking from a Christian Perspective

Future faking is a term found in the narcissistic abuse community, and this term means exactly what it sounds like. Future faking is the act of promising something in the future, but without any real intent or sincere effort towards keeping that promise. Future faking can take many forms, but it always presents a futureContinue reading “Future Faking from a Christian Perspective”

Self Help Cannot Save Us

As someone who wants to grow and become a better person, I understand the value of self-help. There are some great resources out there, especially online, and I’m thankful. I’ve consumed content online that has helped me with my parenting. I’ve consumed content online that has helped me become better organized. I have consumed contentContinue reading “Self Help Cannot Save Us”

Triangulation from a Christian Perspective

Triangulation has differing definitions depending on the context. The context I am thinking about has to do with a certain type of interaction between people. In this interaction, one person is pulling the strings of two (or more) people, using them for their own purposes—almost always causing some form of drama that they will benefitContinue reading “Triangulation from a Christian Perspective”

Gaslighting from a Christian Perspective

What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic in which one person attempts to distort the reality of another. Gaslighting is often done to escape accountability for wrongdoing. For example, person A might have said or done something hurtful to Person B. If Person B were to bring the matter up to person A, personContinue reading “Gaslighting from a Christian Perspective”

Projection from a Christian Perspective

What is projection? Projection is when someone attributes their negative qualities or experiences onto another person. This can include personality or character traits, emotions, or actions. Victims of psychological abuse might endure projection from time to time, and this experience can be very confusing and damaging. The person experiencing projection might fall into a patternContinue reading “Projection from a Christian Perspective”