Some Thoughts on Dealing with our Inner Accuser

Insecurity and pride seem to be two sides of the same coin, and I think a lot of insecurity stems from inner voices of criticism, or maybe more adequality put, inner voices of accusation. One of the greatest hindrances for me when it comes to writing about Christian topics as I see them has beenContinue reading “Some Thoughts on Dealing with our Inner Accuser”

Going Gray Rock from a Christian Perspective

Going “gray rock” is a method of dealing with attention-seeking, manipulative, or otherwise narcissistic and abusive behaviors.  When a person gray rocks, the goal is to simply not respond—like a rock—to any attempts by an attacker at eliciting a negative emotional response from you. For example, if someone rages at you, instead of responding withContinue reading “Going Gray Rock from a Christian Perspective”

Future Faking from a Christian Perspective

Future faking is a term found in the narcissistic abuse community, and this term means exactly what it sounds like. Future faking is the act of promising something in the future, but without any real intent or sincere effort towards keeping that promise. Future faking can take many forms, but it always presents a futureContinue reading “Future Faking from a Christian Perspective”

Self Help Cannot Save Us

As someone who wants to grow and become a better person, I understand the value of self-help. There are some great resources out there, especially online, and I’m thankful. I’ve consumed content online that has helped me with my parenting. I’ve consumed content online that has helped me become better organized. I have consumed contentContinue reading “Self Help Cannot Save Us”

Triangulation from a Christian Perspective

Triangulation has differing definitions depending on the context. The context I am thinking about has to do with a certain type of interaction between people. In this interaction, one person is pulling the strings of two (or more) people, using them for their own purposes—almost always causing some form of drama that they will benefitContinue reading “Triangulation from a Christian Perspective”

Gaslighting from a Christian Perspective

What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic in which one person attempts to distort the reality of another. Gaslighting is often done to escape accountability for wrongdoing. For example, person A might have said or done something hurtful to Person B. If Person B were to bring the matter up to person A, personContinue reading “Gaslighting from a Christian Perspective”

Projection from a Christian Perspective

What is projection? Projection is when someone attributes their negative qualities or experiences onto another person. This can include personality or character traits, emotions, or actions. Victims of psychological abuse might endure projection from time to time, and this experience can be very confusing and damaging. The person experiencing projection might fall into a patternContinue reading “Projection from a Christian Perspective”

Self Image Reformation (Complete Series)

Part 1: Introduction It is amazing how easy it is for a person to create a false image of themselves and believe in that image. What goes into this image? From our early childhood onward, we develop an idea of who we are and who we should be. Our parents and other family members influenceContinue reading “Self Image Reformation (Complete Series)”

Self Image Reformation Part 5: Seek Jesus

The purpose of this article series has been to encourage myself and others to evaluate our false self-images so that we can find a new and better identity in Jesus Christ. It can be difficult to peel away the layers of identity we put on over time—either as a means of conforming to what thisContinue reading “Self Image Reformation Part 5: Seek Jesus”

Self Image Reformation Part 4: Ideals and Idols

An ideal is anything, such as a person or idea, that represents that which is suitable or perfect. The ideals we hold vary depending on what is most important to us. The severity of attachment to our ideals can also vary from harmless to deadly. There are many ideals. Here are a few: There areContinue reading “Self Image Reformation Part 4: Ideals and Idols”